Love me or love you more?

Was having lunch with my colleagues few months ago...
That makes me think of some erm... issues life.
The lunch partners' age group were ranging from 20s, 30s & 40s.
And we were discussing about something interesting!

"Should I love you more or do you love me more?"
Sounds complicated? Yes, it is!

If I love you more, then I will be the independent ones and deciding everything!
If you love me more, then I won't be in control =(
So which way it should be the perfect one?

Something about courtship and marriage that get into me now.
I am not really into all these right now cause I just want to build my career.
Let's just say that I am quite career driven right now.